Do Women really need MEN in their live? That’s the question I would like to impose on someone like a fren of mine, who went thru messy life love triangles and another fren, who can’t wait to go home and be with her husband, whom they were together since 2003.
Now..let’s start with Fren A. She went thru hell with the hubby, caught him numerous time having affair and sex with other women's. She is a strong lady but eventually..emotions and heartaches are all she ever get since married to him. He doesn’t focus much on their maritial problems but instead, turn for comfort to other women’s..some who are young enough to be his sister. Do we really need this type of man in our live? We can’t answer that..we are not married to him..doesn’t know him well but judge him from external but WE do not need this type of men in our lives, who made us shed our tears always and the pain we had to suffer. Let’s kick this type of men out of our lives..so that we can have peace of mind.
My another fren, Fren B is in a stable marriage to a man whom she got hitched since 2003. That was 7 years ago and 3 year in a peace and harmony. Although they are not bless with any children's yet..but that does’t mean they are lonely or there is no laughter in the house. My Fren B was diagnosed with Incompetent Cervix 4 years ago. As a dutiful wife, she gave her husband the permission to marry another, to give him offspring. Till now, he never looked at another women…never cheated on her and always dutifully accompany her to the doctor appointment without fail. What does Incompetent Cervix means? It meant that she will always miscarriage any foetus. Her womb is sooo fragile that she may not able to hold anything even something as light as her husband sperm. But with the supports of the great man behind her..and the love they had for each other since school..syukur alhamdulilah they have been staying strong. Currently, they are thinking of adopting a child but at the moment, her condition is not stable yet and what more..with the new working environment, which is more challenging, she might need to cope with more stress in workload. Who said..to be a Civil Servant is an easy job? With this type of man for a husband, we will walk thru fire to be together..there was always a saying "There is always a women behind every Successful Man”…but this time it should be “ there is always a great man behind every great women”…
In a way, could we find a man for a husband, someone like our prophet Muhammad? Maybe that person do exist but he could be one in a millions. Let’s accept the fact that all of us have flaws that each of us have to respect or accept it. Your husband could be damn good looking but he’s a womanizer. Your husband is so quiet and soft-spoken but he an abuser. Nobody is perfect in this world.
NORA